NB the other benefit of this is not having to do the hideous walk through the bar/look for him manoeuvre of uncool awks because you are already seated/busy with your phone and he can find you actually kthxbai.Have an opener One of the easiest first dates I've had started disastrously - while I was getting ready the cat-I'm-sort-of-stealing bit my face and I had a massive panic (a friend of mine had recently been bitten in the arm by a cat and spent a week in hospital having what we affectionately termed 'The Mutant Claw' seen to).
Yes, you might have these amazing new skyscraper heels with make your legs look incredible except you can't actually walk in them? Yes you might have this incredible corsetty vintage dress which is amazing except you can't actually breathe in it? You can be as edgy as you like, but don't wear clothes that turn basic movement into a challenge. OR - get there early and take the opportunity to get one in before he arrives. Fun opportunity to showcase your conversational superlativeness or hideous social obstacle course where you savagely stack it at every hurdle (NOT EVEN ALWAYS A METAPHOR).Well, if you're firmly in the latter camp, don't feel bad, because you're definitely not alone.If your relationship progresses, you will navigate many firsts, and establish how you interact and engage physically. Often this unease subsides as you spend more time together and grow more comfortable with one another. Think about your positive qualities and your interests.You may be nervous for a while, but that is likely to disappear as your relationship progresses. Worrying about saying or doing the wrong thing in front of your boyfriend can bring on the jitters. Jeremy Nicholson in "How to Reduce Dating Anxiety," published in Psychology Today, recommends focusing on your curiosity about your boyfriend to help ease self-consciousness.According to research by Halls Menthol sweets (I guess there's a link there somewhere) nearly a third of men and women they surveyed admitted being massively nervous before a first date and acting like an idiot as a result.
So, as the goer-on of around ten trillion first dates (approx numbers) I thought I would share my tips to doing so in style.
After consulting Dr Google (never a good idea) and slathering my whole face in Savlon, I arrived, half an hour late, mildly hysterical and smelling a bit like the doctors.
BUT I had a brilliant opening story, involving both embezzled felines and near-death experiences.
The anticipation of spending time with a boyfriend can give anyone butterflies. Think of topics to discuss and questions to ask him.
Ask friends for advice and suggestions, especially if they know the guy who you’re dating.
While nervousness may not vanish with the snap of your fingers, a reality check can help you can reduce your nervousness.