Dating a dad
Instead, if he alters his plan with them to make plans with you, THAT is a red flag.
In the process, some unpleasant and challenging emotions may surge within you and you should be prepared to deal with them.Great news – you finally found a dang awesome guy who comes with a kick ass sense of humor, an irresistible sapiosexual quotient, and the ‘rare’ emotional maturity you’d been seeking all along. Trust me, most dads out there are interested in finding women who will enhance and enrich his kids’ lives. Dating a single dad is a different cross-sectional study in human nature where those normal dating rules do NOT apply.And what’s more, a sound job, a beautiful house, a nice car, and umm … And that means they are in it for the long-haul and will strive to make it work, albeit in a 60-40 ratio. And right before you go all in (for there are potential dangers), there are some things to consider: If you are a single woman dating a single dad: This will include a whole lot of things you might have to get on board with.Be prepared for any sort of reaction, as the kids may take well to a fun friend (they have parental figures already) but the father might not take well to your responses when he is disciplining them or you may be tagged as an evil stepmom if the kids fail to accommodate you!Be mentally prepared for any response-swing on the spectrum, and tweak your strategy accordingly.But give him a minute or even twenty or perhaps, two dates to flush it out of his system. You have to respect his relationship with his children If a candlelit dinner is interspersed with several calls from kids who cannot get over Mooha’s death on their favorite TV show or need candy when dad gets home, do not get accusatory or miffed. You may, instead, opt for a more supportive approach so he knows that you are willing to try and are encouraging of his parenting habits.
He will get to the point where it will be about the two of you. On the other hand, if he feels attacked by your responses/behavior, he will end it. You cannot escape the ex-factor Unless he is a widower, there is a mom lurking somewhere in the shadows.
He owes his allegiance to his children, FIRST And that’s a good thing.
A dad who lives and breathes his kids’ lives is a mature adult who has got his priorities straight.
However, pick your moments and decide if you want to be a parental figure or a friend.
Either way, you need to keep the communication loop open with your boyfriend and for many decisions, the ex-wife too, so as to be able to be a part of the complicated equation.
And if those li’l chirpy people are always about him, there are high chances that the mommy is floating somewhere in the background too, right? Of course, there’s a flip side (like with everything else in life) and some of them might give you the feeling like they’re in it for picking a new mom for their kids at the supermarket and have an ingrained tact of wrecking it all – but how’d you know unless you gauge his ways of loving, his approach toward commitment, and his sense of responsibility, right?